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"The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet. " -James Oppenheim

Today is very special. Anyway being your "un-birthday", it's the first day of the rest of your life.

We've all heard that one. We acknowledge the wisdom and move on --- inspection our watches and calendars to see how long beforehand the "good stuff" starts happening.

Our eagerness and concern check us from focusing our awareness on "now". As a conclusion we never come across it's full capability or give ourselves agreement to enjoy it.

We accept many critical holidays on the calendar; Christmas, New Years etc. . . and these are the times when we have agreement to celebrate.

Surprisingly, many ancestors account having "depression" about the holidays. Could it be that our enjoyment muscles have grown flaccid or that we've been dynamic ourselves nuts to get there.

Just as we don't have consent to enjoy "now", we also don't have authorization to enjoy "here". We can't wait to go on vacations to visit the "good places"

We're definitely not permissible to enjoy our jobs. We want to move on so that we get to be with the "smart people".

Within any given day, a selection of chairs and times are more crucial than others: --- being paid to work --- and once we're there --- in receipt of home. Meal times are "biggies" --- chief events. Is it any amazement that many of us have consequence problems.

Where am I going with this? We shouldn't go to work? We shouldn't eat?

No. Go ahead and do all those things. You'll do them much change for the better when you learn to slow down and connect. The discrepancy is that you'll feel beat about things.

Connect to what?

To "here" and "now": Our close encounter separated from what the Zen masters call "the monkey mind" --- our infatuated conceptualizing and cataloging of things.

The aptitude to carry out "non-thinking" and focus on close come into contact with is called "mindfulness". In other words, when you're washing the dishes, you're washing the dishes.

Non-thinking is not easy. It's a habit which has to be learned. The key is consideration to our breathing. It provides amazing on which to focus.

Starting your day with a daily "non-thinking" bring to bear or reflection is the best thing you can do if you want to connect. It provides a fresh image of what it feels like to relax. You can accomplish this in as hardly as ten follow-up or even less once you're used to it.

Just find a comfortable spot and relax. Clear your mind of all opinion --- even the one's you think are important. Pay concentration to your breathing. Don't force it. Your body knows how to breathe not including you decisive it to. Just go along for the ride. But, breathe by means of you nose. For some argue it helps. If feelings impose (and they will!), austerely redirect your awareness to your breathing.

If you're unsure about how long you be supposed to do this, just set an egg timer for ten or fifteen minutes.

If you'd like more exhaustive advice and some good tips, try Christopher Calder's brilliant site, The Contemplation Handbook.

Many schools of belief hold that what you are linking to when you contemplate is much, much, more than just relaxation. I tend to agree. But, expectations can be very distracting when you're in receipt of started. It's critical that while you're meditating you feel anything it is you feel. Not, what a big cheese tells you you're going to feel.

Once you get the hang of it, you'll have a amazing way to start your day. You'll also learn finally how to "re-connect" during your day --- take a small amount "vacations" --- any time you want. They won't cost a dime and you'll feel beat about things.

Bob Steinman (AKA 'Feelbetterman') resides in Orlando, Fl. with his wife, 13 year old son, and a entirely flawed female Shih-Tzu. He is retired subsequent consecutive careers in academics and human services. Presently he aspires to write a perfect self-help book which will award his exclusive perspective on how to live in harmony with ourselves and our life situations. His web site,Feel Change for the better about Things provides a means to fine-tune his copy and also be in touch with those who have activity in his work.